Most agree that ongoing relationships between men and women, such as marriage, are hard work. That work is all about negotiation – my radio station or yours in the car, which restaurant to go to, or which movie, or when to go to bed. Left alone without another, there would be no need to negotiate, but we choose to share our living space with a partner and that needs negotiation, for small items as much as big ones.
When men and women work together, the dynamics can be similar to those of a marriage – that is to say, their respective attitudes toward emotions may be similar. Men and women may see things differently at work. He is more interested in solving problems. She wants problems solved as well but may take a more emotionally open response to the challenge at hand.
One of the greatest battles between two people in a relationship may be the degree to which emotions are expressed, if at all.
Often, women need more emotional validation while men tend to say, “What, me worry about feelings? I’ve got problems to solve, including the ones you create by demanding that I get all emotional about nothing important.”
Women, particularly as they mature in a marriage, often crave more power than they accepted at the beginning of the relationship. Carl Jung was well aware of this. He referred to the deeper soul of women as Animus – the hidden male counterpart of her personality – and the deeper soul of men as Anima – the hidden female counterpart of his personality. According to Jung, women, as they mature, crave more power to assert their selves in a more forceful manner, while men, as they mature, may allow their more feminine side to emerge as they relax into their emotional selves, becoming more open to their vulnerabilities and needs for relationship. These dynamics reveal themselves in the workplace as well, as women become more assertive with business experience and a number of men feel more comfortable with their emotions as they gain more leadership responsibility.
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